Welcome back families and schools to the 2021-22 school year!
This month, we are discussing :
Say Something by Peggy Moss
In Say Something, the narrator sees and hears teasing, put-downs, pushing, excluding and other forms of bullying behaviors at her school. Because she’s confused about what to do, she doesn’t do anything at first. However, her responses change as she gains understanding and empathy.
The book’s message to say something is a call to action for all of us to move from the passive role of bystander to the positive, active role of UPstander. We discussed our power to become UPstanders who support and include every student at our school so that everyone belongs and feels safe.
Here are some of the ways to be an UPstander that we discussed:
- Refuse to join in with bullying behaviors.
- Use positive peer influence to help friends “do the right thing.”
- Say or do something when someone needs help. (Just standing next to someone will make him/her feel better!)
- Help all kids join the fun. Invite someone new to play!
- Help friends find positive things to do and say.
- Laughing and joking with friends is fun, but laughing at a friend can hurt.
- Help kids “save face” when they are in a tough spot. Help them get away and be safe.
- Always get an adult if there is violence or a weapon!
We hope you will talk with your child tonight about being an UPstander. To reinforce the message at home:
- Talk about ways that each family member is an UPstander at home!
- Review the Bully Triangle with your family.
- Role-play different scenarios to practice UPstander behaviors, words you can say, and actions to take if someone needs your help.
- Review ways to be a bucket filler and swim free of bully behaviors.
For over 20 years, Project Cornerstone has partnered with Silicon Valley schools, parents, and community organizations to deliver programs, trainings, and services that support youth to develop the social and emotional skills to grow into responsible, caring, and healthy adults who feel valued, respected, and known. Our children, families, and adults in our communities need support in social and emotional well-being, now more than ever.
If you would like more information about the ABC program, please contact Mari Ueda-Tao. The ABC program also promotes the 41 Developmental Assets. To learn more, visit the Project Cornerstone web site.