Project Cornerstone

Welcome back, families and schools to the 2022-23 school year!

This month, we are discussing :
Today I Feel Silly and Other Moods that Make My Day by Jamie Lee Curtis.

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This book teaches students to identify emotions, their own, and to understand how another person may be feeling. Learning to identify feelings is important because it is one of the first steps to becoming a bucket filler. Bucket fillers express empathy for others.

Join in the discussion with your child

In the lesson, students learned specific skills they can use to influence things that happen to them and switch directions to change the outcome of their day. They also learned to notice the feelings of others and learn ways to help someone else feel better on a difficult day. Here are some of the skills we discussed:

  • Accept and name your feelings.  Say to yourself: “I am sad.”  “I am _______.” 
  • Remind yourself that this feeling is temporary. You will feel happy again. Look to caring peers and adults for support. Take steps to put a lid on your bucket. Do not allow yourself to dip into your own bucket. Use positive self-talk to remind yourself of the ways you have overcome difficult times in the past. 
  • Relax and take a time out before you act. Allow yourself a bit of time to feel this way. Then, take slow deep breaths and relax all of the muscles in your body. Get ready to choose the way you respond to your emotion.
  • Think about ways to help move out of your mood. Use positive self-talk to help make a plan. Thinking helps you make positive decisions. 
  • Do something to switch directions and change the way you feel. Take control of how you respond to this feeling by doing something you enjoy. Talk to a caring adult or friend about how you feel, or do something physical. 
  • Be there for a classmate who needs support. Filling buckets is a great way to change a bad day to a great day.When you fill the buckets of others, your bucket fills too!Talk, spend time, or interact with someone who is feeling out of sorts. Help them switch the direction of their day. You can fill their bucket, and fill yours, too!

Let your child know that sometimes you experience good and negative emotions. Share the strategies you use to change your own mood. Name, model and practice these steps to help your child learn more valuable tools to cope with their feelings.

BONUS: Make a list of things you both can to do to help switch directions and make everyday a good day.

Read more about Project Cornerstone

For over 20 years, Project Cornerstone has partnered with Silicon Valley schools, parents, and community organizations to deliver programs, trainings, and services that support youth to develop the social and emotional skills to grow into responsible, caring, and healthy adults who feel valued, respected, and known. Our children, families, and adults in our communities need support in social and emotional well-being, now more than ever.

If you would like more information about the ABC program, please contact Mari Ueda-Tao. The ABC program also promotes the 41 Developmental Assets. To learn more, visit the Project Cornerstone web site

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